Miss Manners' Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding by Jacobina Martin

What the Martins say: Judith calls this “‘the show business wedding,’ which we’ve written about and are not fond of.” What the internet says: A few videos that have taken YouTube by storm in recent months: a bride singing as she walks down the aisle, a priest breaking into a rendition of “Hallelujah,” and a rapping maid of honor. And they looked like people-it didn't look like it was a Broadway show.” They also see it as an opportunity to be gracious, as it allows bridesmaids to buy within their means.

“I knew they'd be happy with the dress because they picked it themselves. “People were shocked that I just told the women in my wedding party to wear a dress,” she says. What the Martins say: Jacobina did this exact thing for her wedding, and didn’t even specify a color scheme. According to, you should 'limit the number of styles your friends can choose from' to make sure the overall look is cohesive. What the internet says: As seen here, many brides are ditching the one-size-fits-all bridesmaid dress and inviting their bridal party to wear dresses of their choosing, sometimes within a designated color scheme or theme. They kindly obliged, evaluating six popular wedding trends (as espoused by that beacon of sound advice, The Internet). The book was published in 2011, so we wondered what the mother-daughter duo would say about some new trends that have popped up since. While planning her own wedding, Jacobina teamed up with her mother to write Miss Manners’ Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding. Not only is she a faculty member of The Second City comedy training center, but she’s also the daughter of Judith Martin-aka Miss Manners-the veteran Washington Post journalist who’s famous for the never stuffy, always witty etiquette column she’s written since 1978. When asked how she knows her wedding was a success, Jacobina Martin’s answer is matter-of-fact: “I'm still friends with everybody who was in.

Miss Manners' Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding by Jacobina Martin